Stop marrying liabilities, avoid broke women – Pastor Okonkwo tells men

Relationship coach and Lead Pastor of David’s Christian Centre, Kingsley Okonkwo, has sparked a viral social media debate after advising men to stop marrying “broke” women and to reject the idea of marriage as a one-sided financial burden.

Popular relationship coach and lead pastor of David’s Christian Centre, Kingsley Okonkwo, has ignited a fierce online debate after charging men to raise their marital standards and avoid marrying women who are “liabilities.” In a series of provocative posts shared via his official X (formerly Twitter) handle on Sunday, March 15, 2026, the cleric argued that the declining interest in marriage among men is directly linked to the perception of the institution as a financial burden rather than a productive partnership. He noted that while it has become socially acceptable for women to “brazenly insist on rich men,” the reverse is often stigmatized, leading to an unbalanced dynamic that discourages men from committing.

The cleric described the prevailing social expectation that men should bear the entire financial weight of a household as “unbiblical” and “damaging” to the long-term health of the family unit. “Men, it’s high time we start having standards as well. You guys are too used to women who are liabilities, that’s why less and less men desire marriage, they see it as a burden,” Okonkwo wrote. He further challenged men to seek out partners who bring value beyond the domestic sphere, adding, “Men set standards like you won’t marry broke women too, that you want a partner and not a dependent, maybe it will make more women work and not see marriage and dating as a poverty alleviation scheme.”

Okonkwo also addressed the psychology behind men who intentionally seek out vulnerable or destitute partners, attributing such choices to fragile egos and a desire for absolute control. He cautioned that such behavior “is doing more harm than good,” urging men to support their partners’ personal and professional development instead. “Yes, I know some of you men like the needy, hungry and dependent women because it boosts your ego and helps you control women, but it’s doing more harm than good. All humans have value and abilities; let them develop it,” he cautioned. The posts have since triggered a wave of reactions across social media, with some praising his candor on financial equality and others criticizing him for seemingly disregarding the traditional roles often emphasized in religious contexts.

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